By Lee Blackspur

If you feel like you are living a life inside the drama of the popular television show you may want to read on.

Dating is one of those things that can become drama filled if one of the two people is melodramatic and pushes those buttons! Sometimes it is simply in a persons genetical makeup so you can expect drama from here on out, but for others, it is a series of choices that can be rectified with the right information.

These choices and events are easy and avoiding these issues will help you avoid drama in dating.

1. Being a yes person

This is a hugely common mistake that men often make, but women are just as guilty. If you are too scared of standing up for yourself because it might make the other party mad, you will likely get ran over. There is a difference between commanding respect and being aggressive or offensive. This is not what we are saying, but do not be so submissive that others lose respect and more importantly you lose your own self respect. The other partner will begin to take advantage of you if you do not stand up for yourself and keep your confidence levels up!

2. Convincing someone to love you

If you are not getting anywhere in the relationship, it may be time to move on. Do not continually try to make someone love you, chances are they never will and this can cause a ton of drama in dating or marriage.

If you try so hard to please someone else you can lose respect for yourself. Now if you lose self respect, do you think anyone else will respect you?

If they are not attracted to you, do not assume that you are unattractive or not worthwhile. Simply understand that not everyone shares the same tastes in love and find someone that is attracted to you!

Love yourself enough to know when enough is enough. If the relationship is on a downward spiral to hell, get out. Do not stick around and lose yourself because you are trying to make someone else fall in love with you.

3. Buying affection

Why in the world do people begin giving lavish gifts when they feel that their dating partner is not interested any longer? Yes, it is possible that they will stay a little longer, but do you know what you are saying to them and the rest of the world when you do this? You are telling them, I dont mind that you are no longer interested, I will just spend myself into the poor house, waiting for a crumb of love. You must make sure you never fall into that trap. Do not waste your hard-earned money on someone that is no longer with you at heart. MOVE ON!

4. Hold off on telling all

Understand that when you are in a relationship you are not obligated to express your every waking thought. You are entitled to your privacy and personal thoughts. This is not to say that you should not talk to the other person or tell them how you feel, but just do not blab everything. Women are the worst at this, they tell things that would be better left unsaid. This can give the other partner something to hold against you in an angry stint. This can lead to unnecessary fights and bickering, causing damage to a relationship beyond repair.

Now you may be wondering how all of this leads to drama in a dating relationship. It is not hard to establish a life of drama in any relationship, it starts when there are conflicts, uncertainties or pressure from either side. As stated earlier some people are simply prone to drama, but it can be changed if the above situations are avoided. The most important of avoiding this type of relationship is to respect yourself. If you have self respect you will demand respect and not fall into a self defeating relationship. Do not let others lead you around or call all the shots, you are a person that deserves happiness and a little bit of say so!

About The Author

Lee Blackspur is the owner of http://www.My-Dating-Advice.com which provides free online and offline dating tips, advice and articles for men, women and teens of all ages and experience.

By Lee Blackspur

If you have been trying to understand women for years, join the group! Most of the dating tips for men express what not to do, what to do and how to stay out of the doghouse, but very few actually focus on understanding women. That is because there are very few people that actually understand women, and of those people no one is fessing off the secrets.

It is not difficult to understand women, but for so many years others have put such an emphasis on the inability to understand that most men have simply given up. Women are complicated and it takes a while to learn the specifics of any woman, but it can be done. One of the keys is continuing on, following guidelines and setting it all in action.

Tip 1

Despite the past 50 years and womens fight to be independent they still like to be treated like a lady. Because someone wants to be treated equally does not mean that they give up being feminine or wanting a man to take care of them emotionally. There is a huge difference between giving someone equality and taking care of them emotionally. Most men fail miserably in this category and it is all because they simply do not understand it. Many men make the mistake of saying if she wants independence and equality then let her open her own door. This is the wrong way to think and gets many in trouble. Now there are women out there in the world that are offended by a man opening a door or showing other signs of gentlemen like behavior. Dont worry about these women because they have issues far further than the opening of a door. Concentrate on being a gentleman, treating a lady with respect and understanding that equality does not equal a lack of gentlemen like behavior.

Tip 2

Most men get very frustrated because women sometimes blow things out of proportion. This is how the man sees it, but women see it very differently. This is because men and women think very differently, let me try to explain. Men think more logically and are not as concerned with personal statements or emotional information in normal conversation. On the other hand women are more emotional and evaluate statements based on personal information.

When a man makes a comment the woman is likely to believe that he is speaking about her just without the backbone to say her name. This is one of the leading flaws of women and many of them have trouble overcoming this feat. Men need to be careful with what they say and how it could sound based on this information. If you know that talking about the fat lady at the next table will likely leave her wondering whether or not you think she is fat, avoid the comment. Now many men would complain that this is like walking on eggshells. The question then becomes do you want to monitor what to say, or be alone? Your choice!!

Tip 3

Women want a good guy with a bad boy a image. On the whole they do not want someone that is ugly to them, abusive or not a gentleman. Just because a woman wants someone that is not a pushover does not mean that he necessarily has to be a bad boy or criminal. When women go for this type of man they are looking for someone that will stand up, make decisions and not let others run over them. You can do all of this and more without being a true bad boy. They key is to stand up for yourself, demand respect and not let others push you over. It is fine to be nice, but do not fall in to the nice guy trap. Certain studies have shown that women do not want this no matter what they say. They are simply not attracted to someone that can not hold their own emotionally.

Keep these three tips in mind and you should experience a reletively pain free relationship.

About The Author

Lee Blackspur is the owner of http://www.My-Dating-Advice.com which provides free online and offline dating tips, advice and articles for men, women and teens of all ages and experience.