By Lee Blackspur

Infidelity hurts no matter whether it is in a marriage or dating relationship. While some suspicions in a relationship are completely normal, sometimes you just know something is not quite right. In many cases it is difficult to detect because your partner is minding his or her business very closely. They do not want to get caught, not only do they stand to lose the relationship, they could end up with a zero dating experience, if both sides find out that there is someone else.

There are sure fire methods of knowing if your partner is having an affair, but it can be time consuming and costly. The best way to avoid the cost of a private investigator is to do a little snooping yourself and keep your money in your pocket. Here are some clues to tell if your partner is having an affair.

The most obvious clue that is generally very easy to spot is if your partners schedule has changed. Some fluctuation in work hours is normal, but if there is a consistent late, early morning or odd times they may be cheating on you. When you are dating or married to someone you often can guess their work schedule, hobby schedule and when they will be home. If this predictability changes and you are unable to locate them by phone, or in person, it may be time to get suspicious. Excuses such as I forgot my phone, late meetings or early arrival for workload should be a clue that they may be having an affair. Watch for the changes, then start evaluating.

The second clue is odd phone numbers, phone calls or email addresses. If you are having hang up phone calls or your partner is very private with their phone calls, it could be a sign. If in the past, phone calls were taken right in front of you and now he or she waits until you leave the room, you can suspect that the phone call must have been something private. Most individuals that are cheating are somewhat secretive and get defensive, even angry when questioned about their phone calls, emails or other communication methods. They have to have some way to talk to this mistress so keep your eyes and ears open for strange phone calls, numbers or email addresses.

Tip. If the phone history and computer history is constantly deleted, this is a gigantic clue that your partner may be having an affair.

If your partner suddenly has new interests such as golfing, bowling or any other hobby that you have never seen before, beware. This may be a sign that the other person is interested in this hobby so your partner is taking it up. Generally after you have been dating someone for a while you pretty well know their hobbies, likes and dislikes. Also another clue that there may be an affair is if this new hobby only involves the guys or girls and you are never invited. Other changes in likes and dislikes may include music, reading, sports and or other changes in physical activities.

A sudden change in appearance, diet or exercise is another big clue that your partner may be having an affair. If a preoccupation with how their body looks or the shape that they are in may indicate that someone is looking. Women are notorious for buying new bras and panties, ridding their dresser of granny panties. Men will often begin exercising, dye their hair and maybe change the way they dress. Now there are times in a dating or marriage relationship that people want to change their appearance, but if there is a lack of reason you may want to dig in and find out why the change.

There are products on the market that allow you to test your partners under garments for signs of infidelity. These should be used after you have exhausted all other determining clues. The test kits can get costly so be pretty sure before resorting to the testing method. The best way to determine whether or not that your dating partner is cheating on you is to keep your eyes and ears open. Never bury your head in the sand and think that it cant happen to you, it can. Generally, there are several clues that your partner is having an affair, but you have to be aware and know them when you see them.

About The Author

Lee Blackspur is the owner of http://www.My-Dating-Advice.com which provides free online and offline dating tips, advice and articles for men, women and teens of all ages and experience.

By Lee Blackspur

So how do you know when more than kissing on the first date is acceptable? Is it when you fall madly in love the first time you see the person or is it because of something else?

Kissing on the first date has been a taboo subject for decades way before any of our time. Today dating is much different and kissing on the first date is not as big a deal as it was several years ago. But, the question remains how do you know if kissing or more should be a part of the first date? Here are a few things that you should take into consideration when thinking about how far to go on your date.

First are you female or male?

If you are a male this is a no brainer, a lot of men would go all the way before the first date if that were possible. Men do not worry about what you are going to think of them tomorrow or how society may frown upon their sexual excursions. Men do not worry so much about the technicalities of dating. Women on the other hand have an entire set of criteria that they consider before they will even touch a man. They are thinking about how it will look, what others will say and will he be respectful tomorrow. Men and women are wired completely different and in order to decide what is right for you, it takes an examination of a few inner beliefs.

What makes you feel good?

Yes, sex makes you feel good, but that is not what we mean here. Think the situation through before acting upon your feelings. How will you feel about the decision tomorrow, next week or next year? Will you regret the fact, be embarrassed about it or feel good about it. This is the leading problem with those individuals that engage in sex on the first date. They often end up regretting it because they did not consider the consequences or think it all the way through. So think it through and just do not jump in the sack for fifteen minutes of fame.

Who is this person?

Another consideration in kissing on the first date and/or sex, is who are you with? Do you know this person and do you really like this person? Is this someone that you want to spend time with or are you looking for something else? Do you need someone to listen to you, or love you and instead of seeking the right thing you turn to sex. This is a very common issue, people are looking for something and are not sure what it is, so they turn to physical satisfaction. If this person is not someone that you can see yourself with past tonight, you may want to take the relationship a little slower.

Go for it

Of course most people are going to say that kissing on the first date is completely different than sex on the first date. Since there is not a dating code or law it is hard to know whether or not if you should. A simple kiss shouldnt be a big deal, right? Well, to most people it is not a big deal, but there are those that take it very seriously. Everyone is different so what may be a minor kiss, may be a true life changing event to them, so this is something that you have to decide. Most people would agree, however that if you are attracted, feel a connection and are interested go for a kiss on the first date. If not and you are not sure about the person, play it by ear, go out with them again to see where it leads.

Do what is right for you.

Do not get too wound up in what others think or what is right for them. Everyone is different and just because someone has an opinion does not make it right. So you do what feels right for you and quit worrying about everyone else. Have a positive dating relationship and consider yourself, no one else!

About The Author

Lee Blackspur is the owner of http://www.My-Dating-Advice.com which provides free online and offline dating tips, advice and articles for men, women and teens of all ages and experience.